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2021 Catch Up: Growth, Marriage, and Therapy

I’M BACK.

Hello friends! It’s been a long while since my latest blog post (or even an Instagram post, let’s be honest). I’ve been MIA on social media for the past 6 months, and there have been so many growing pains, lessons, and changes that have happened in such a short amount of time.

Where should we begin? Let’s catch up.

First off, I am so excited to be writing again. To be creating again. To be sharing deeper and more important topics with you. Don’t get me wrong, fashion and beauty are fun. But I want this blog to empower and challenge you.

There is only so much I can show you on social media, and this blog is where it gets real and honest. I do not have all the answers, and I’m still discovering what is right for me. I know you can relate because growing into your highest self isn’t easy. I believe it’s important to show you both my wins and losses to paint you the full picture. And if you read this – please let me know via DM! I’d love to hear your thoughts, and how this helped you in any way.

In the Summer of 2021, I left my business.

Not going to lie to you, this shit was HARD. I felt pulled in 2 directions. I felt like I was betraying my younger self. I’ve always had this version idea of me in my head – CEO, international offices, traveling the world, giving speeches Gary Vee style – and I was giving up on the idea of who I should be. 

Truthfully, I was burned out and tired. My priorities changed. I fell more in love with the stock market and became excited about the daily and long-term opportunities it presented. It inspired me to learn more and more – about economics, technology, electric vehicles, and the innovation that will change our world in the next 5 years.

This is where I thrive. This is where I want to be. I could feel myself entering the next phase in my life. 

For you, it might be your degree. Your style. Your career. Your routines. Your long friendships. Whatever it is that you hold on to because you’ve been doing it for so long, even if it doesn’t feel authentic to who you are, this is your sign. It’s time to let it go, and make space for who you want to be.

I’ve learned that you can’t have it all, but you can have what you want.

Give yourself permission to let go and grow. You’re allowed to change your mind. We tell ourselves stories about who we are and who we’re not. Thank that version of you served its purpose. You owe it to yourself to evolve.

(About investing and trading in the stock market – I’ll have more posts on that later!)

In the Fall of 2021, Josh and I started planning our future wedding.

Eeeeeeek, I know!!! There is SO MUCH excitement around entering the next stage of our relationship and celebrating our love with our family and friends. 

Entering this stage of our lives feels surreal, and I’d love to talk about this process more as it progresses. I have my dream ring picked out and everything!

It sounds and feels like a fairytale, and it is. But deep love and commitment is a skillset and choice that is required every single day, and there is still so much to discover.

I started therapy in the Fall, and it completely changed my life.

Therapy is by far the best money I’ve ever spent. I’m so proud to say that I’ve gotten all my close friends to seek therapy, and now I’m encouraging YOU!

We’re going to be talking a lot about:

  • Mental health
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Body acceptance
  • Self-compassion
  • Wellness

And more on this blog. One of my biggest motivating factors to seek therapy is a successful marriage and family of my own. In order to do that, I need to confront my trauma, unhealthy habits, and fears. I believe in preventing problems, not fixing them when they come up.

Among many lessons, therapy taught me about the subconscious mind. Our subconscious minds absorb information and beliefs that control 80% – 90% of our decision-making. We aren’t aware that we make decisions out of fear, scarcity, or lack, but we do it all the time.

Consciously, I understand my goals and the big picture. I have a plan and execute it. Subconsciously, I believed that I’m not worthy of what I wanted, and it was my biggest fear to attain what I want because I wasn’t ready.

Here’s a real-life example of how this works, with the context that I have no problem spending money on my loved ones, but I do when it comes to myself:

“I just can’t do it. I can’t bring myself to spend $50 on the skirt that I want.”

Me to my therapist

“Yzobel, how are you going to build generational wealth for yourself and others, when you believe you don’t deserve what you want?”

My therapist’s response to me

Yeah. It’s crazy. Every therapy session I learn something new about who I am, who I want to be, and why I’m this way. To this day, every week, my therapist gives me homework to train my subconscious. It’s been a rewarding journey.

I found my first therapist on BetterHelp. My close friends and I LOVE the BetterHelp platform. If you want to try therapy risk-free & get one free week, use this link.

I really believe that every single one of us needs therapy at some point in our lives. Yes, it can be scary to confront our traumas and limiting beliefs. But when you’re on the other side, you’ll realize that you had nothing to be afraid of.

There is so much I can talk about when it comes to therapy! Stay tuned for multiple blog posts on that.

I fell in love with cooking.

It makes me feel present and creative. I love the way it makes my loved ones light up when I cook for them. I was even thinking about starting a cooking page on TikTok, but I’ll probably start with mini vlogs and fun Jupi content first!

Thank you for taking the time to catch up with me today. I am so glad that you’re here. We’ll be talking about 2022 intentions, goals, and vision in the next blog post. I have so much to share with you, and I can’t wait to get real on here.

If you read this whole thing, let me know and send me a message on Instagram. Expect 1 – 2 new blog posts every week from me, and stay notified by signing up for the mailing list and opt-in!

Love,

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